In a relationship context, persistent focus on what is not working can overshadow investing in nourishing the relationship with positivity and acknowledging the feelings of the other person.

You can lose yourself and the other person due to focusing on things and processes rather than the quality of the relationship and care for each other's feelings.

Fighting the notion of what has already taken place is pointless, people are showing you what they are made of and what that context brings out of them, believe it and learn from it, then decide how to move on.

Understand what is triggering them and what is triggering you.

Whatever you are not okay with in others, is likely to be a shadow of what is not okay with you. Work on it first in you.

Embracing your own imperfections creates the space for others to do the same and for you to do that for them as well.

Use your relationships as a mirror for blind spots you can work on and resolve. This can result in you and your relationship being transformed.

You could still decide to leave the relationship but you would be doing so transformed and in a better place for your next relationship having maximised the learning opportunities in the current one.

What is a recurring theme that keeps coming up in your relationships?

Don't deny your feelings acknowledge them and move on.

Love, peace, and joy are your natural state, when something happens that changes that. It is important to be curious about what the new emotion is there to draw your attention to. Once that is discovered and acknowledged, there can be a release over time.

No emotion is due to last forever, they are like waves.

That which is not processed will not go away, it will rumble around till it has had its day. What you suppress will express itself somehow and often in a messy way due to the built-up pressure.

If your default is to try to escape certain emotions, an opportunity is being presented to practice being present with the emotion and letting it do its work and pass, so you are no longer its prisoner and free from the power of control you have given it.

The shortest route back to your natural state in non-resistance. Embrace what is there, learn and it will move on.

Grieving is a case in point of allowing things to process through us with due acknowledgement. We can grieve loved ones' passing or any other changes in life.

It is about recognising that when something we care about is no longer the way it was, there is a natural process of adjustment that takes place and we should let it take its course with the context and perspective that it is not bad or permanent. It is transient and no longer present. You will then be able to embrace what is present fully.

What emotions have you been avoiding?

Experiencing sadness does not define you to be a sad person. If you don't resist the sadness but let it pass through you, you will be able to carry on with your day.

Resisting it, requires us to engage it which gives it the power to persist. It is part of the human experience to partake in a wide spectrum of emotions.

The emotion is not you, it is just what you are experiencing there and then

How do you acknowledge sad emotions without being consumed by them?